FOR young Muslims couples in Malaysia trying to get married, it is not an easy route, not least because of conventions and customs.
Firstly, one needs to have the right amount of money. If you intend to marry a woman who is a university graduate, you need to fork out between RM40,000 and RM70,000.
According to modern-day customs, the wang hantaran itself should be more then RM10,000, with the balance of the money used for the wedding ceremony, transport for families and accommodation.
Some would even go to the extent of taking loans from banks, financial institutions and even loan sharks. It seems that you are not only getting married with your spouse but you also end up “marrying” into thousands of ringgit worth of debt.
We should remedy this situation and make it easier for young Muslims especially Malays to tie the knot. Maybe we should introduce a scheme similar to the Tabung Haji model for Muslim couples in Malaysia.
Getting married is considered an ibadah, or a good deed in Islam, so why can’t we prepare our children and their children for marriage rather than letting them suffer debts when they should be focusing on building a family?
The need to change the mindset of parents must also be carried out. Putting a price tag on your daughter is not a good way for her to start her own family.
Yes, some might say that the money is used to cover expenses incurred during the wedding ceremony but they must understand that most graduates start their career with a salary range of between RM1,800 and RM2,500. Is it logical to ask them to fork up so much money and burden them at the start of their marriage?
According to statistics from the National Registration Department, there are 74,723 cases of children born out of wedlock by Muslim Malays and they were registered between 2005-2009.
While I do not believe that easing up financially on the marriage process will eradicate the problem of children born out of wedlock, it can surely improve the statistics significantly.
The union between a man and a woman is something sacred and beautiful. We should cut all the red tape and clear up all the hassle. We need more people to speak up on this matter. Parents shouldn’t let their children suffer for the sake of ringgit and sen. Ahmad Soffian Mohd Shariff,Shah Alam, Selangor NST Letters 09/10/2014