It is tempting to think that happy people are the way they are because they’ve gone through life a little easier, and they did not have to face the dark and challenging times that you had to go through. After all, they do seem to get the good end of everything in your eyes.
This is far from the case. As Abraham Lincoln once put it, “folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
Happiness is a choice which you make and is reflected in everything you do. At work, it affects the way you perform, your motivation, your interaction with your colleagues, and how you face challenges.
It doesn’t take any single ingredient to make you happy. It takes a decision to focus on the good. So for those of you ready to make the commitment to be happy, here’s what you need to do:
1 Remember, the small things don’t matter
Don’t sweat the little things. Life is filled with them. You can choose to brood and fret about it, or you can choose to go ‘meh’ and move on. Save your time and brain space worrying about something that actually matters. Replaying a trivial incident - like your colleague misplacing your favourite pen – over again in your head is unhealthy. Learn to forgive, mourn the pen a little maybe, and then get a move on.
2 Practise honesty with yourself and others
Be truthful to yourself, and grant others the same respect. Express honesty in everything you do, even if sometimes the truth may turn out nasty. If you are unhappy with the way someone treated you, say so. If you’ve made an on-the-job mistake, own up to your boss and start fixing it. Staying true to yourself, your opinions and your beliefs will not only lead you to feel happier, but also liberated.
3 Don’t focus on what can’t be controlled
4 Hang out with happy people
Birds of a character flock together. We tend to surround ourselves with people who exude our opinions and thinking styles. Take a step back and objectively analyse your lunch mates and your groupies. Are they a positive bunch? If so, they’re keepers. Are they haters? Then, maybe hang around them a little less, and find happier characters to make your regulars.
5 Look for the silver lining
6 Stand up for yourself
7 Avoid comparing yourself to others
8 Start your day with happy thoughts
9 Do a daily jiggy
We also recommend shaking your booty to this feel good jingle for 10 minutes every day. Enjoy!
NISHA T. NAIDU firstname.lastname@example.org The mySTAR Job At Work 07/10/2014