Use the informal nit-picker when you're talking about someone who is extremely critical, even when those criticisms seem inconsequential.
If you can always find something to complain about, you're probably a nit-picker.
This word, from about 1950, comes from the idea of literally picking nits (or lice eggs) out of someone's hair.
A nit-picker is as careful and meticulous about finding faults as a literal nit-picker would be about finding each tiny nit.
We, human being, are social animal and the ability to develop our relationship has evolved us into family, society and nation.
Now-a-days due to widespread presence of information technology, the world has become a global village.
The development within the field of science has increases the opportunity to know and develop a relationship to people from around the world.
However, no matter how much humanity has developed themselves on the scientific level; the good thing is that the basic principle of understanding, patience and mutual respect to form a relationship is still the same.
In other words, you cannot have a successful relationship by keeping your focus on the fault with other people.
You have to understand and respect the people in order to develop a healthy relationship.
Relationships are nurtured by the virtue of understanding, patience, and mutual respect.
Human beings are not perfect so finding fault is very much easy. Everyone has their own share of strength as well a weakness.
That is why, to have a successful relationship, you need to keep your focus on other people merits rather than what is the fault with them.
Finding fault in others is a surest way to attract unhappiness in life.
By finding fault in others you feel superior for a certain period of time but that is not going to help you in the long run.
The habit of finding fault will only make severe damage to your relationship and that in turn bring frustration in your life.
Hence, you should always keep in mind that as a human being, no one is perfect, including yourself.
Whatever fault you are finding in others is always based on your projection of right and wrong, proper or improper, acceptable and unacceptable and because of that it cannot be ultimate truth.
On the other hand, by keeping your focus on positive aspects of people, you will have a lot to gain and nothing to lose.
So if you want to be happy in life, you have to accept people as they are instead of finding fault in them.
Azizi Ahmad Malaysia Kini Letters 14 Jul 2020