February 7th, 2010

The mind is restless and goes wherever the attention is


A disciple and his teacher were walking through the forest. The disciple was disturbed by the fact that his mind was in constant unrest.

He asked his teacher: "Why most people's minds are restless, and only a few possess a calm mind? What can one do to still the mind?"

The teacher looked at the disciple, smiled and said:
"I will tell you a story. An elephant was standing and picking leaves from a tree. A small fly came, flying and buzzing near his ear. The elephant waved it away with his long ears. Then the fly came again, and the elephant waved it away once more".

This was repeated several times. Then the elephant asked the fly:
"Why are you so restless and noisy? Why can't you stay for a while in one place?"

The fly answered: "I am attracted to whatever I see, hear or smell. My five senses pull me constantly in all directions and I cannot resist them. What is your secret? How can you stay so calm and still?"

The elephant stopped eating and said:
"My five senses do not rule my attention. Whatever I do, I get immersed in it. Now that I am eating, I am completely immersed in eating. In this way I can enjoy my food and chew it better. I rule and control my attention, and not the other way around."

Upon hearing these words, the disciple's eyes opened wide and a smile appeared on his face. He looked at his teacher and said:
"I understand! If my five senses are in control of my mind and attention, then my mind is in constant unrest. If I am in charge of my five senses and attention, then my mind becomes calm".

"Yes, that's right", answered the teacher, " The mind is restless and goes wherever the attention is. Control your attention, and you control your mind".

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What Really Makes You Happy

Emotions Are A Part Of Life


Life is like an unsolved puzzle.
No one can define what life is because it is a very complex thing.
Life is something that makes you happy and proud at times and

 makes you feel so low at times that you say to yourself,
 "Why was I born?"
But whatever it is, it is real fun.
In Life, in every moment, something new happens; something that

 you never expected, something that you were waiting from a long while

 to happen and something you were expecting to happen.

It is a combination of happiness, sorrow, joy, love, anger,

 enjoyment, loneliness, fear, excitement and many other emotions.
The definition of the word life can't be completed

 without using the word emotions.
Some people work in emotions whereas others work with emotions.

So it's very important to understand how people are using their emotions.
If they are letting emotions get control over them, then they'll be dragged

 by others and situations all the time. But, if he is controlling his emotions

 in a proper way, then no one will ever have control over him.
The way a person uses his emotions is what we call attitude.
Someone has correctly said, "Your attitude determines your altitude in life".

 Attitude, as I already defined, is the way an individual uses his emotions

 and directly related to the psyche of a person.
Some people use their emotions in a positive way

 and some people do it in a negative sense.
When people use emotions in a positive way we call it positive attitude

 and when they use it in a negative way we call it negative attitude.
It's up to an individual to decide how he uses his emotions.

 Which way will you decide ? 
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Ten Mantras for a long life ....

Amid the busy lifestyles, long working hours, jam-packed schedules most of the times, most of us end up ignoring our health. So, to give you a wake-up call to rise healthier and live longer, we bring to you ten ways to live healthy....

Go for exercise  Regular exercising helps in maintaining or gradually increasing the strength and endurance of heart and other muscles. An exercise program may include a variety of aerobic activities, such as walking, swimming and cycling. If one has a busy and sedentary lifestyle, a walk of 5 minutes after every hour is necessary.

Healthy eating - One may unlock the door to healthy life by eating healthy. Healthy eating never stands for eating less or dieting, but it’s all about eating a nutritious and a well balanced diet. A healthy diet is one which includes a good combination of fruits, vegetables, dairy products. One should go for 4-5 servings of fruits and vegetables per day to stay fit. If you are really interested in maintaining a good health, then prefer not to miss your breakfast because it provides with the energy or fuel required by the body after a gap of long night.

Go for water - Drink plenty of fresh water, to keep your body healthy. One can have 4 liters of liquid per day. (Heart patients who are on fluid restrictive diets, or have a problem with fluid retention should consult a physician before increasing their consumption of fluids)

Salt restriction - Modest salt restriction, which means limiting common salt intake to 6 grams per day, lowers the blood pressure. This effect is particularly important for those who have severe hypertension to begin with. They respond better to salt restriction. Salt restriction is also especially effective in elderly and obese hypertensive patients. The magnitude of reduction in the risk of stroke and coronary heart disease by salt restriction alone is estimated to be 22 percent and 16 percent respectively. Please note, a salt free diet is not advisable in most instances. In fact, very low salt intake may cause marked fall in blood pressure, leading to giddiness and transient impairment of consciousness. Salt restriction may be somewhat relaxed during peak summer when considerable loss of sodium may occur via sweating.

Sleep well - Having proper and apt sleep is one of the most important rationales to keep you fit and fine. It helps you to mark a provisional end to your fears and apprehensions. An adult should have a minimum sleep for 7-8 hours while a child should have 10 hours of sleep.

Maintain ideal weight - Carrying a lot of extra weight as fat can greatly affect your health and increases the risk of life-threatening conditions such as coronary heart disease and diabetes. One can easily calculate their ideal body weight through their Body Mass Index (BMI).
BMI = [Weight (in kilograms) / Height (in inches) * 2] * 703
If your BMI lies in the range of 19 to 25 it means you are healthy, below that range is underweight while from 25  29 is overweight and 30 means obese. If you are overweight or obese, start by making small, but healthy changes to what you eat, and try to become more active.

Manage your stress levels  Hectic lifestyles accompanied with ever rising aspirations has become a major cause of stress in our lives. If not managed in a proper way, stress can give rise to emotional, physical, and psychological problems and can even take a toll on your heart. To manage stress one can opt for simple things which help in distressing like getting a pet in their lives, or sparing time for their hobbies, or playing with kids.

Monitor your blood pressure and cholesterol levels - People with high blood pressure run a higher risk of having a stroke or a heart attack. It is ideal to monitor the blood pressure daily and report if there is any change in the reading. Keeping blood pressure on the lower side helps to decrease the strain on the heart.

Keep a tab on your Alcohol intake  It is observed that hypertension is more common in people who consume more than 1-2 ounces of alcohol every day. Heavy alcohol intake may increase the BP acutely. Increase in blood pressure may persist up to as long as 1 week after alcohol intake. Reduction in alcohol intake from 440 ml to 66 ml per day has been found to reduce systolic blood pressure by 5 mm Hg and diastolic pressure by 3 mm Hg. Therefore, hypertensive patients should avoid more than 1-2 drinks in a day. Some people, especially women may be more sensitive to alcohol. They should abstain from alcoholic drinks.

Go for preventive health checkups  You do not need to go to doctor only for medical emergencies. In times of slow resistance, unhealthy lifestyles we should realize the importance of timely medical check-ups. We should be regular with our check-ups, before there is a serious condition

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Definitions From Sharifah's Dictionary

Not sure if these are in the dictionary.


A person who has stopped growing at both ends and is now growing in the middle.

A place where women curl up and dye

Someone who is fed up with people

The only animals you eat before they are born and after they are dead. 

A body that keeps minutes and wastes hours.

Mud with the juice squeezed out. 

Someone who is usually me-deep in conversation.

Cold Storage. 

Cutting money in half without damaging the paper. 

An insect that makes you like flies better.

Grape with a sunburn. 

Something you tell to one person at a time.

A bunch of bones with the person scraped off.

The pain that drives you to extraction. 

One of the greatest labour saving devices of today.

An honest opinion openly expressed.


and MY Personal Favorite!! 

Something other people have.

Standard Chartered, Nescafe and Air Asia ~ Rewind

Mr. & Mrs. Ng have 3 lovely daughters; Elaine, Ena & Ella.

The 3 daughters were brought up in a prim-and-proper way and when they reached 20, they were still virgins. Years passed, and it was time to get them married.

So, the parents found them the most suitable ' leng chais' (handsome guys). They got married and were preparing to set-off on their honeymoon. As 'concerned' (more like 'kay-poh') parents, Mr.& Mrs. Ng were curious about their daughters' first-night experience. So, before the daughters went on their respective honeymoons, Mrs. Ng told them......'Your father and I want to know about your 1st night encounters and whether you are satisfied. Write a letter to us, but as not to raise your husbands' curiosity...you all must use a code-name to describe your  experiences'.

So, the excited daughters were off. A week passed. Mr. & Mrs. Ng got the first letter. It was from Elaine. They opened the letter and found the word
'STANDARD CHARTERED'. They immediately took the newspaper and looked for the Standard Chartered advertisement. 'Ah! here it is!', exclaimed Mr. Ng. The motto for Standard Chartered was... 'BIG, STRONG & FRIENDLY' Mr & Mrs. Ng were happy.

A week later, they got another letter. This time it was from Ena. The content was simple.
'NESCAFE'. So, again they took the newspaper and looked for the Nescafe ad. 'Ah! here it is.. 'NESCAFE: PLEASURE TILL THE LAST DROP'. Mr. & Mrs. Ng beamed with joy.

Another week passed. A month passed. And another. There was still no letter from Ella. The Ngs became worried. Finally, the letter came. It was scribbled and could hardly be read, but Mrs. Ng managed to figure it out. The code-name was
Why 'AIRASIA'...? Mr.Ng rushed to the nearest store and got a newspaper. He flipped the pages frantically. 'Ah! Here it is!' Mrs. Ng grabbed the page and read aloud. Before she could finish .......THUMP!!!...she fell off her chair..
The motto was ...'7 DAYS A WEEK. 6 TIMES DAILY. NON-STOP'...!!!
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