kheru2006 (kheru2006) wrote,

Time —the best present

I HAVE a sneaky feeling that all the fathers are too fatigued from watching the World Cup matches in the wee hours to celebrate Fathers Day today.

And the happiest fathers must be those who got a Fathers Day gift of an extra-large, widescreen, high-definition TV sets to watch their favourite teams in action.

Never mind if the scenario is like this: Wife gives permission to buy. Children say, “Happy Fathers Day! You deserve this!” And Dad pays the bill.

Among those who celebrate Fathers Day most enthusiastically (as well as the other days like Mothers Day, Valentine’s Day, Secretaries Day, or whatever) are the business people.

They play on the emotions of those who have been given the honour of having a day designated on their behalf, and laugh all the way to the bank when we fall for their promotions.

Actually, when you think about it, there are many ways to appreciate the fathers in our life, without having to spend a sen. But we must be prepared to spend time in building up the relationship.

When my wife and I decided that at least one parent should be at home during our children’s growing-up years, we were taking the road less travelled.

But it gave us huge dividends.

Somehow, one income, and a bit here and there with our freelance efforts, was more than enough to see us through.

There is an interesting website that talks about the 10 Awards Every Dad Should Win.

It brought a smile to my face that I could win probably most of them, like The Best Storyteller Award, The I’ll Clean Up before Mom Gets Home Award and The Can Fix Everything Award.

But the reality is that these awards can only be won if one has invested time in the father-child relationship over the years.

Although my boys are fine young men now, I do not think they will dispute the fact that I was a fantastic storyteller in their growing-up years.

I was going through my home library recently to clear books to make way for new ones. When it came to the children’s books, it was really difficult to let them go.

It was not so much the books themselves but the memories embedded within each story.

I chuckled at how, when they were not able to read by themselves yet, I would simply embellish every story to make the plot even more interesting.

As for the I’ll Clean Up Before Mom Gets Home Award, I am glad I qualify for this category, because I spent a number of good years being the Fulltime Househusband.

Making a mess of the house when Mum is at work, and then making sure everything is fine just before she comes back is part of the deal.

How does one put a price on time? How do you measure those moments of bonding with your children in their growing-up years?

The song Cat in the Cradle comes to mind. Made famous in 1974 by Harry Chapin, the song is told in first-person by a father who is too busy to spend time with his son.

And, eventually, the boy grew up just like him – a busy man who also does not have time for his father.

Time. It’s priceless. Happy Fathers Day.

Executive editor Soo Ewe Jin ( is thankful that instead of buying him gadgets or gizmos, his boys found the time to send him the creative cards that money cannot buy. The views expressed are entirely the writer's own. The STAR Home News Opinion Sunday Starters 15/06/2014

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